8 Reasons to leave your phone at home while socialising.

Hey guys! Its me, back again. Today’s post was initially triggered by me taking part in a real life social event! Yeah, who knew I’d be doing such a thing? But I did, mostly because I was guilt tripped into it as it was a birthday night out for one of my closest friends. The one thing I noticed though, out of the whole night, was the fact that every single individual spent majority of the night on their phones, which makes everything so much less enjoyable. So, I’ve decided to write a post dedicated to 8 reasons to leave your phone at home on a night out.


1. You look SO unapproachable

When you’re out, sitting at the booth with your girls and every single one of you are sitting around the table on your phones, no one is looking at you all thinking “wow, what fun group of people” are they? No. The thought going through most peoples heads when they see you all is more than likely “wow, they look like they’re having a really f*cking shitty time, why don’t they go home?”. Therefor, no one in their right minds going to approach you and try to befriend you. Which, on a night out, is my favourite thing to do!


2. You’re not convincing anyone that you’re having a good time

If you’re on a night out, and your snapchat story is 200 seconds long and consists of pictures and videos of you sitting round a table, waving your phone in peoples faces and posing in the background, we all know you’ve missed half of the funny situations your friends have gotten themselves into because you’ve been too busy trying to convince everyone else you’re having a great time.


3. Drunk Texting

We all know how it is, at a certain time of night after a certain amount of drinks, that we’ve got a person or situation in mind that’s just taking over our whole little drunken minds. Of course, you need to text said person and tell them exactly what you think of them and how they’ve made you feel. Yes, at the time it’s a great idea but not the morning after! When you wake up to a text from the person you absolutely bombarded with abuse the night before and suddenly everything comes rushing back, which is one of the worst feelings ever.


4. Uploading ugly pictures

When you’ve got a good amount of booze in your system and you decide it’s selfie time, but you can’t just take pictures and leave it at that can you? Noooo. You can almost bet on it without a doubt that you’ve uploaded the worst picture of yourself that you’ve ever seen of yourself and it’s already been seen by everyone only to realise you look like Amanda Bynes on a bender.


5. No distractions

We can all agree that if you’re on a night out with the girls (or boys) and you’re posting about it everywhere, your jealous ex boyfriend/girlfriend is going to try ruin your night in some way. Whether it’s a simple text to remind you of their existence or they’ve started a full blown argument with you purely to ruin your night alone, they’ve succeeded. Now you’re ready to go home carrying your heels, a jacket lost, your make up staining your face and a good night ruined, but it’s all good, at least you still have your phone, right? Wrong. Leave it at home next time.


6. You don’t actually need it.

What happened when people left the house without mobile phones before they graced the earth? Absolutely nothing. I can admit, having your phone is more than practical when it comes to losing your friends in the club or looking for a taxi home, but we don’t actually need our phones. How do you think people managed before they were invented? Do you think people just sat around waiting for the day that mobile devices would be sprung upon us? Nope, people did things the exact same, only without their mobile phones, imagine that.


7. The ability the forget your problems and enjoy yourself

A night out is supposed to be a good thing, right? A break from the real world, if you will. So why do we feel the need to carry the one thing with us that contains everything and anything that’s ever went wrong in our lives? Carrying your phone on a night out means that anyone and anything can creep up on you. Whether it’s by calling, texting, tweeting, snapchatting, facebooking, you can be contacted in any way by people that will ruin your night with the click of their fingers, why give them that right? leaving your phone means leaving your life at home for a while.


8. No one can mug you if you have nothing valuable enough to mug.

The safest option is to go out with everything you need hidden on your body somewhere, whether its putting your money/card in your bra, pockets or even knickers at times. Carrying a bag around with you indicates that you have valuables to carry, which is the same with your phone. Most people have their phones attached to their hands, right? Meaning thieves know full well you’ve got one, one worth a lot of money for most cases these days at that. So leaving your phone at home means there’s no way of it being taken!

These are just a few of the reasons that came to mind when thinking about why you should leave your phone at home. I hope you guys can be influenced by this because I really truly believe that in this day and age phones and other mobile devices are taking over peoples lives!

I’ve created a poll for you all to let me know which posts you all prefer as I’ve noticed I get a lot more feedback from some rather than others. There are also some I prefer to write rather than others too so it would really help to see if we’re all more or less on the same page!

lots of love to you all and I hope your weekends been better than mine!

(this poll is multiple choice, meaning you can choose as many as you like if you prefer more than one type of post)

 

Things I would say to my younger self.

hey guys,

So, I’ve saw a couple of posts floating around lately on “things I would say to my younger self”, I think it could be a tag, I haven’t been tagged in it, but I have a strong feeling I could make an exceptionally good post out of it. So I’m just going to write a little bit about things I would tell my younger self now and things I wish I had known.

  1. you DO NOT need to be nice to people who are trying to take advantage of you. – Growing up, I had a lot of people take advantage of my good nature. Whether it was friends who weren’t really my friends and just wanted something in return for friendship, or boys, well, men. Usually men. Some of you may already know, some of you might not. But, I once wrote on one of my old posts about how I was raped on my 19th birthday, the 28th of October last year. Well, before that there was another incident. At the age of 12 I became a victim of sexual assault. Ever since I didn’t feel like I had the right to tell guys ‘no’. I didn’t want to be mean to people. How stupid was I to think protecting my own body and innocence was mean.
  2. Don’t favour fake friendships over real ones – Growing up, I always tried to be friends with everyone. I thought that the more people that liked me, the better I’d feel about myself. But the truth is, I liked myself so much better when I was being true to myself instead of pretending to be someone I wasn’t.
  3. Just because your home life is different from everyone else’s doesn’t mean your not loved the same – Growing up, all my friends had mums and/or dads who would wake up with them before school, make them breakfast, set them up for the day, but not mine. My mum would still be in bed when I got home. I hated going to my friends houses and watching their parents act like real parents, it made my heart bleed jealousy. But I’ve learned since that my mum does love me just the same, she’s just not very good at being a mum.
  4. Put yourself first – I wish I hadn’t been so selfless and put my own feelings first from time to time. I know its a great quality to have, but whose putting you first if you can’t even do it yourself? Because you bet your ass that they’d put themselves before you in a heartbeat.
  5. Don’t be so trusting – My biggest mistake was letting people in who didn’t deserve it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve put my all into someone and they’ve passed it all on to someone else. i can honestly say I’ve been betrayed in every way possible all by different people I put my trust in. People are evil and there isn’t very often that you find someone whose going to support you instead of going against you at the first chance they get.
  6. Live your life and stop worrying – I know ‘stop worrying’ isn’t something that you would usually say to someone who suffers with a serious case of anxiety, but I truly mean it. Stop worrying about everyone else and start concentrating on having fun, you’re still a kid! Stop giving yourself adult responsibilities. If your mum cant look after you properly, that isn’t your fault. Nor is it your responsibility to take on yourself as your own parent.

That’s just a few things that i would say to myself if i met a younger version of me. What would you say to your younger self?

Starting from the beginning.

Hey guys, I’m back.

I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out what it is, exactly, that I want to do with my blog. I mean, I know pretty much what I want to use it for, beauty, fashion, lifestyle, mental health posts. But it’s taken me a lot of time to figure out how exactly I’m going to do it. Along the way I’ve came up with a few ideas too! So you can let me know if you think its a good idea or not, at the end of the day, it’s you I’m aiming to please here!

First things first, I’m going to start posting just twice a week. Thursdays and Sundays. On a Thursday it’ll be more beauty related, like make up, hair, fashion, skin care. On a Sunday it’ll be Lifestyle/mental health, I know you guys love that stuff.

I’m thinking of setting up an email for some of you to talk to me about anything that’s bothering you. As I’ve said from the beginning, I don’t want any of you suffering in silence. If you think that’s a good idea leave a like or a comment and that’s what i’ll do, I might even start writing posts to help you guys, anonymous though, of course.

I know this ones been short, and i’m sorry its taken me this long to decide what i’m doing. I’m going to start bucking up my ideas as of now!

lots of love xo